nbd/server: Plumb in new args to nbd_client_add()

nbd/server: Plumb in new args to nbd_client_add()

Upcoming patches to fix a CVE need to track an opaque pointer passed
in by the owner of a client object, as well as request for a time
limit on how fast negotiation must complete.  Prepare for that by
changing the signature of nbd_client_new() and adding an accessor to
get at the opaque pointer, although for now the two servers
(qemu-nbd.c and blockdev-nbd.c) do not change behavior even though
they pass in a new default timeout value.

Suggested-by: Vladimir Sementsov-Ogievskiy <vsementsov@yandex-team.ru>
Signed-off-by: Eric Blake <eblake@redhat.com>
Message-ID: <20240807174943.771624-11-eblake@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Daniel P. Berrangé <berrange@redhat.com>
[eblake: s/LIMIT/MAX_SECS/ as suggested by Dan]
Signed-off-by: Eric Blake <eblake@redhat.com>