Fix crash when deleting monitor while a command is in progress

Fix crash when deleting monitor while a command is in progress

If QEMU shuts down while we're in the middle of processing a
monitor command, the monitor will be freed, and upon cleaning
up we attempt to do  qemuMonitorUnlock(priv->mon) when priv->mon
is NULL.

To address this we introduce proper reference counting into
the qemuMonitorPtr object, and hold an extra reference whenever
executing a command.

* src/qemu/qemu_driver.c: Hold a reference on the monitor while
  executing commands, and only NULL-ify the priv->mon field when
  the last reference is released
* src/qemu/qemu_monitor.h, src/qemu/qemu_monitor.c: Add reference
  counting to handle safe deletion of monitor objects